May. 11th, 2017 12:16 pm


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This morning was the meeting at school following the testing to see what's up with the kid, what more does he need to be more successful (and less disruptive??) . 
TL;DR is that he has qualified for an Individual Education Plan (IEP) due to "developmental delays"- an academic designation, rather than medical one. This IEP lasts 3 years then it's re-evaluated.

[personal profile] ursa_cerulean and I went and talked with his teacher, the occupational therapist, social worker, psych, and 2 coordinators. It's  a great team and I've always appreciated their attention, dedication, and expertise.  So, it turns out my kid has a hard time staying focused, following directions, and controlling his impulses emotionally and physically. That bit of executive function just hasn't shown up to play yet, I guess. It means constant redirection at home and at school, lots of disruption for everyone, and a lot of assertive/aggressive behavior, explicitly he will argue and debate as a matter of course. He doesn't back down from confrontation, so if someone gets up in his face, there will be fisticuffs. So! Let's find some skills. Let's find a way to maybe translate that to home so that the parents can feel more assured and less frazzled. Because let me tell you, saying sit down and eat 20 times in the span of 5 minutes is no fun for me. Because the things he loves doing, he's flipping brilliant at, and there's no currency that works if he can't find value in the activity. Just imagine if we could persuade him to be collaborative and social on top of creative and empathetic. We'll get this baby-activist going yet. I really would prefer he manage a path through school that doesn't involve "I HATE EVERYTHING."   I'm grateful. This is a great school and a great team and I'll be able to transfer the IEP to Newton when we move.

A surprise feature of the IEP process is to carefully monitor to make sure that he is not being bullied or being the aggressor either. I think this is smart to track as part of the work. I can see him being on both sides of the equation, particularly when you toss in a fair bit of gender nonconformity. He's vulnerable and they can proceed with extra care to help re-direct and provide extra support as need be. I couldn't be happier at this point with our situation.
Date: 2017-05-11 06:42 pm (UTC)

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From: [personal profile] drwex
After so many years of living this I have ALL the sympathies and empathies for you. I'm glad you have a good and supportive school team and an outcome that you've wanted for a while.
Date: 2017-05-12 11:45 am (UTC)

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From: [personal profile] library_sexy
Glad you have a full team on the job now! As I said when we chatted ours has been a great help.
Date: 2017-05-12 01:14 pm (UTC)

ursa_cerulean: baby feeder in the shape of a mouse decorated with sea monsters (Default)
From: [personal profile] ursa_cerulean
I mean. I *did* have to direct that energy by complain about my lettuce at dinner, because I was ALL SET to argue (and because I have literally never taken a sandier bit of lettuce.)
Date: 2017-05-12 01:45 pm (UTC)

ursa_cerulean: baby feeder in the shape of a mouse decorated with sea monsters (Default)
From: [personal profile] ursa_cerulean
so so gross. I thought of you though.

The restaurant [name redacted] was very gracious, possibly because *I* wasn't super worried: I wasn't likely to eat the lettuce or the bread on my sandwich ANYWAY. The next person might have been less... easy going.


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