mizarchivist: (Bookworm hides)
Last night a guy murdered a bunch of people in Nice, France. This following last week's tragedies with police shooting citizens, and citizens shooting police.

I am unable to feel this latest one yet. So, working on self-care:
-Ate breakfast
-brought food and water to homeless in the Common
-allowed myself some hours at work to just be
-now going to focus on some real and useful work that needs doing.
-going to listen to some very chill music
-connecting with friends and hearing how they are

What is your self-care right now?
Jul. 14th, 2014 04:07 pm

My 2 cents

mizarchivist: (Kitty Jedi Mind Trick)
The BoS/Judah situation has eaten my brain a great deal over the last few days, even before I came back from vacation. It's complicated and messy. I have a lot of thoughts, most of which I probably will not commit to public electrons right now. But I can scarcely do anything else while I'm so monopolized. I hope at least writing this much will help. [edit: it took an hour to write this...]
So, with that in mind...

  1. I moved to Boston in 1997. I was welcomed with open arms at a Beginning of Summer party in 1998 and have gone to at least one of that family's parties every year since, if not more than one.

  2. However, I go less frequently. Why? Because I don't like crowds. So Hot Foods is not my cuppa because there's no outside element. My evolving branch of the tribe doesn't overlap the party list as much as it used to either. Nevertheless, it's a place I really enjoy going to see people I'd not see otherwise without a fair bit of effort.

  3. I have not been able to wrap my brain around reading all the nuance of this situation. Being away the last most of a week... I just don't have the capacity to comb through it all those comments and all the posts.

  4. Which means I am not comfortable wading in beyond this ankle deep place I'm in right now.

  5. I have known both sides of this situation for a long time. 1998 for Scott and Rachel, and since before 'Song moved out of Atlanta to here (but not by much... pre 2004, though). [livejournal.com profile] yendi slept on our spare bed when interviewing here. Scott and Rachel hosted my baby shower.

  6. I have experienced sexual violence. I am "lucky." My perpetrator is dead, I never have to worry about him coming to a party. If so? Clearly we have bigger problems. But I've been there. I fit the part of the population more likely to find myself there again. I'm keen on continuing not to have any more up close and personal experiences.

  7. I do not now nor do I intend to have big parties with big lists of people coming into my domain any time soon. I used to try to do this, but I am not of a temperament to deal, nor are my partners. I do know it's a complex thing to have hundreds of people in your domain all at the same time, much less every N months.

  8. I have more to say, but given 3, I'd be coming from a place where I'm probably assuming or less informed.

  9. I'm left feeling anxious. How can we continue as a complex multi-layered group of communities that from time to time have social functions with each other if someone with my degree of shared history/background/experience is almost wholly unwilling to say more than this on this situation for fear of being torn to shreds?

  10. I may be able not to interface with this situation as deeply or directly as I would like, however, I want to clarify that any social gathering I'm responsible for that anyone here reading may be invited to: I feel strongly about people feeling safe. If you do not feel safe while you are at my party, please let me know as soon as you can. I will work with you to come to a preferred outcome. I speak for me, although I suspect my household adamantly shares this view.

Nov. 19th, 2013 11:35 am


mizarchivist: (River/Freaked)
Yes I heard about the tragedy in Arlington.
No that's not my neighborhood.
I just read up on it and I'm almost sorry I did because now I'm feeling ill.
I can't tell you how much I don't want to talk about it.
mizarchivist: (boston)
No T = No work.
I live next to Watertown, Belmont, and Cambridge so I feel compelled to keep an eye on if they tell me Arlington should duck and cover, too. In the meantime, here we are, wiping yogurt out of Crime Fighter's hair, doing laundry, and making breakfast.

ETA (12:22): [livejournal.com profile] primal_pastry and [livejournal.com profile] rintrahroars combined households were home, making late breakfast and acting normal, so we went over there for the whole morning. Making crepes while the kids chased the baby, then getting some fresh air out in the back yard til the raindrops threatened... yeah. It also happened to be when nap time was starting to threaten, so here we are. The front porch has 30% less junk on it and is better arranged for bikes.
Life Goes On. 
mizarchivist: (FamilyOccupiesBoston)
So, I'll let you pick your flavor of news to hear about today's latest act of hate at the Boston Marathon.
I'm here to report everyone I live with and so far know of in the vicinity are fine. Even if I had been downtown, my library is far enough away, I would not have been near the carnage. Just the ripple effects that we'll all feel on the T for a while.

Everyone go hug someone. That's an order.
mizarchivist: (boston)
We are about to lose Windsor Button, not because it was not well loved or well visited, but because they are losing their lease. Well, thanks to everyone flocking there, the sales at Minds Eye Yarn have plummeted in the past month to the point where the dear owner is thinking she may have to close by June if things don't turn around this coming month. We've lost a lot of good yarn stores in the last 5 years, with folks spending less and rents rising. However, I cannot stand by and watch a friend's business and a family member's job just disappear without some fighting. My word from the inside is that $20 can go a long way if enough people are giving a bit at a steady rate. So, if you're a fiber-nerd that doesn't want to resort to what's available at Michael's or AC Moore by July, you will go to Mind's Eye in and over the next week or two and show some love. Please. Pass it on- (Feel free to buy something FOR your fiber loving friend if you are not one of them.)
mizarchivist: (Mirrormask)
My father texted me "don't panic" ... "Shooters at Chardon High are in custody" ....  "school in lockdown"

Fast forward to when Mom herself called me 20 minutes ago to say she's catching a ride home (her car blocked in by investigators). She sounded sturdy and fine. I watched the noon press conference and it sounds like one of the students has died. 

Mom and Dash this past December

I thought I could hobble through the day here at work, but I can't think. I'm going to go find my baby and maybe have some tea. 
mizarchivist: (Fire)
Before I went off on my own and figured out what chosen family meant to me in that context, I have had plenty of experience with people my parents added to our family.

Martin had been that guy- like a brother to my Dad (who's never had a brother by genetic connection). They co-owned two boats when I was growing up: Snakes and later Random (Yeah- they weren't very purposeful sailors). Most of the construction projects either took on around the house: building my mom's studio in the back yard, iirc- Martin's back deck, the revamped bathroom that had a sauna in our basement- all done because we couldn't be bothered to leave the cookies out for the construction elves. His was one of the earliest numbers I memorized.

For a long time, Martin seemed to be the type who didn't seem like he was going to settle down and be domestic, but Carol showed up when I was still young enough to dig on the Smurfs (Hm, around 7?) -- so, really, she's been around most of the time. When I was 14, Matthew Alan was born, then a few years after, David. Matt was one of the few babies I ever looked after. I probably had most of my diaper experience thanks to him.

Sadly, Martin and Dad didn't really spend much time together the past many years- I did see Carol last time I was in Ohio, which was lovely. But, not so much the big man.
Dad called today to tell me that Martin was in a motorcycle accident yesterday while riding with Matthew Alan- that Martin was killed instantly.

I'm still in shock. I'm angry this happened. I'm frustrated I am so far away and can't be there to focus on feeding the grieving. I regret - as always- I won't be able to talk to him again, or hear his snarky laugh and commentary.

Carol and Martin- Mom's ubiquitous back yard party, 2008
Carol and Martin

You are already massively missed.

So in case you need a reminder, my biker friends: for the love of all that's good in the world, be careful out there. 
mizarchivist: (MalMisbehaves)
So, this has been a thing for a few days/weeks in Internet Land. Short version: Nathan Fillion said in an off-had way how if he had a crazy amount of money (won the lottery) he'd buy the rights to Firefly and make it available all the time. And of course, some really hard-core people took him at his word. The thing is, Fillion has said (several times): dudes, it was just something I said, not a thing I expect to happen. In his interview with Chris Hardwick on The Nerdist podcast, (#65) he said if people are going to raise millions of dollars, better to try to cure a disease with it.
And yet, "Help Nathan Buy Firefly" is still something that's an active thing. I swear people are doing that "well, what does he really mean, don't send him money." Guys. Don't send him money. Just don't. Don't do this thing. Use your immense energies for other good activities, but this one is not something that is likely to happen. It's just rife with pitfalls, particularly when the guy at the focus of the energy said "no." Remember No means No? Apparently not. This almost makes me want to get a twitter account so I can pretty please ask the man himself if he can try one more time to stem the nerd passion on this doomed adventure. Almost.

Keep in mind, I'd be thrilled if there was a chance in hell anything could happen to make Firefly 'verse return. But this isn't it. I did watch a bit of it last night on the Science Channel- yay, Science Channel! It reminded me of how much I love it and I miss it. And with that- time to slog through the rain and mud to go ride a bicycle to nowhere in a basement.
mizarchivist: (Mirrormask)

My Grandmother, Anne


My father called me again with that tone of voice. Grammy died last night from a stroke. Alzheimer's took over quite a few years ago now, and she had been having some serious health issues in the past few months, had fallen several times- the usual ailments of those to 90. Aunt Carol had been the primary advocate for Grammy since this all started to happen- the only one who was local in Pittsburgh. It's been tough on her, but she'd been The Pillar of Strength.

Anyway, I know what happens next, I just don't know when I'll be in Pittsburgh. I'm... just here. Can't do anything, can't help. I wish I was already at my parents' house baking cookies or something.

Can this please stop for a while? A month or two? .... No? Yeah, I thought not.
mizarchivist: (Mirrormask)
Since Saturday morning, almost all my energy and thoughts have been focused on the reality that one of our tribe- [livejournal.com profile] ariesd - was taken so suddenly that morning. I am usually not fond of euphemisms, but in moments like this, I have a hard time with hard words. He's gone and there's an Aries shaped hole in the world, now.
Much of that time has been spent in shock and denial, but yesterday the realness settled in when helping [livejournal.com profile] taura_g  at the house, meeting Aries's family (for the first time).
Despite my hyper-focus on all this sadness, I'm having a hard time writing here. Grief is weird and extremely painful. It's hard not to feel very neurotic, too. But I have to say something.
I'm grateful that I have an assistant who can help me get on with the business of mundane library/reference. I'm actually thankful to be here at work at the moment. I have enough outside demands for things/ activities I can stumble through and just keep moving until I can acclimate. Also another time I am glad I'm alone in this office so I don't have to fake being more with it than I am.

Love to you, taura. See you soon.
mizarchivist: (Mirrormask)
My aunt just posted a video of my grandmother's new residence, an assisted living facility. It looks pleasant enough. There was a brief cameo with Grammy at dinner and it was the first time I'd seen her in anything but photographs for a few years. Please. Let me leave this earth with my wits.
mizarchivist: (River/Freaked)
Bob Wright- 1948[?]-2009
Bob Wright

Farewell, dear friend.
You were one of the best: Fighter and warrior; laborer; rock n' roller; story teller....
I loved to talk about motorcycles with you. And to hear about your travels. You were and advocate for the homeless- so outspoken and smiling even when you didn't want to.
School is cool - a motto for the kids going up to the Park St. daycare.
Smile, it's the law.
I must have seen you on that corner for about a year before I started to talk to you and my only regret was not talking to you sooner. I thought of you just about every morning before I left for work- would you be out? Was it going to rain on you today- did I already have some food for you at work? 
I was so glad for you when you finally got a real room at the assisted living place. And yet, you still liked my food better.
Whenever I was able to do a bit more for you, I was glad. What a revelation to be able to give you a little iPod so you could listen to your old favorites- Pink Floyd first and always. Janis Joplin, Simon & Garfunkel, Bob Dylan, all the good stuff of your generation. Music is my solace, and I have to believe it lightened your spirits from time to time. I'll never be able to hear Pink Floyd again without thinking of you first, and missing you. No longer an earth-bound misfit. I hope you are happy and at peace. Know that you were greatly loved and that you mattered.
mizarchivist: (Angst Queens)
Ok. I just listened to the NPR 7am podcast (all of 4:46 long). It makes me wonder why I get out of bed in the morning.

So with that in mind: tell me something good that's happening either in the world or to you. Or both.
mizarchivist: (Vote)
I called Kerry, Kennedy and Markey to see how things are going. All three are in favor of helping out Wall Street, but with proper oversight. I concur and I said as much. Only Markey's office actually cared who I was and where I was calling from (this is pretty standard from my previous calls on other issues). Find your Senators - Find your Rep . When can we say "Mischief Managed," ferchrissakes?

mizarchivist: (River/Freaked)
My building manager's grand-niece is 3 weeks old. And has ovarian cancer. According to Carol, Dana Farber has only seen 3 other cases like this.  They're having a benefit game on Saturday, which I can't attend, but I donated a bit anyway. Apparently the insurance is being the big business it is and not covering much at all. Details are on this picture that I'm having a hell of a time uploading...
If you want to donate, info is:

Abigail Support Fund
 c/o Stephen Cooker
Citizen's Bank
42 Pinkerton St.
Derry NH 03038

Since I suggested to Carol that she share this with the rest of the tenants in the building, I'm signal-boosting, too.

Yeah. There's nothing wrong with my life in comparison. Anyway, folks. hope everyone takes advantage of what may be a perfect day, weather-wise.
Jan. 14th, 2008 01:06 pm


mizarchivist: (WashFlies)
+ Busy weekend in Providence, lots of people seen
- Didn't get home til 11 last night
+ Got home before the snow
+ Took today off
-------- so did [profile] quiet_elegance, because our car decided to stop being coy and go visit a guard rail going down rt 2.
+++++++++ He's fine, no need to go to the hospital or anything.
- Our insurance is... not great. They canceled our comprehensive coverage without telling us.
- we may be buying a new car if the damage is more than what we still have to pay off (a little under 5K)

The car is NOT my thing. I do lots and lots of things, but other than making sure that the ins. company and the loan company get their $ every month, Not. My. Thing. [profile] quiet_elegance is talking to everyone who needs talking to. He's still waiting to hear from Bill-the-mechanic and the insurance people on what happens next.  We will not be continuing with Liberty Mutual in future transactions.
mizarchivist: (Bookworm hides)
So, I'd planned on a nice time at Diesel, except my respiratory system had other plans. As [personal profile] lifecollage and I were paying for dinner, I sneezed the kind of sneeze that bodes ill for future breathing. Despite instant application of drugs, it was too late, as it was the sort of bad attack that made me go find an allergist a few years ago. The really bad ones only happen a few times a year, and usually in winter.
Given I was just about a full hour later than I expected, the ZOMG crowd- nay, the wall of people in the back was so disheartening that I almost didn't try to breach it at all, except there were exchanges I really wanted to get done. It's days like this that remind me why I stay away from Diesel Tuesdays. Wall. Of. People.
Thanks to all who assisted me and asked after me in my hour of need. Apologies to those I was unable to properly greet.
mizarchivist: (Default)
Surreal. "Amazing Grace" started playing when I was reading Bhutto was just killed
Dec. 6th, 2007 02:09 pm

He's OK

mizarchivist: (Pounce!)
Just got a call from [profile] quiet_elegance. The first words out of his mouth were "I'm OK."
It turns out that while he was out to get some tools and feed meters at the hospital job site, some guy coming out of a parking spot hit  him going about 10 miles per hour. The bastard didn't even stop. The guys at the site helped him get his head back together, assess damage, call the police, and so on. He's bruised but fine and gets a freebie day off tomorrow. We should take pictures of our bruises (me from falling on monday)... or something. I did tell him that he really didn't have to play a game of one upsmanship with me.


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