Silence = Death [trigger? Possibly]

[mizarchivist]

I keep reading about the arguments on what is rape every day. I know that my audience is not necessarily the part of the population that needs to be educated. 

Nevertheless. Know this. Rape is rape. I replay mine every time I read another of these articles. We are everywhere, perhaps we don't necessarily want to talk it out, but we are here. And you should know that. That is all. 

ETA: First- thank you for all of you for your support. This has NOT been an easy thing to post. I have to remember, I'm not doing it for me. I'm doing it for those who are not fine.
Second - My most recent realization about this national conversation is that people (who apparently have never been up close an personal on the business end of rape) talk about this thing like it's just this... thing. It's this generic concept with no faces. Not something that happens to people. The people who might be standing next to you on the train, or looking across from you at the deli where you're getting your lunch. Or looking at you from across the breakfast table.

And the thing is, rape shouldn't define our very beings, at least if you're lucky it won't. I sure as hell don't want that to be the first thing people think of when they see me. But don't let that hope I have make you think for one micro-second that it didn't matter or that it didn't happen. It matters, it happened, it's happening still all around us and will continue to be an epidemic in our world until we start seeing the faces and taking this seriously. All of us. 

Comments

*hugs*

[taura-g.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[entrope.livejournal.com]

<3 me too.

[surrealestate.livejournal.com]

Yes.

[asciikitty.livejournal.com]

love you

But only death is silence

[drwex]

*HUGS*

[beowabbit]

Thank you for posting this.

[ckd]

*pebble*

[lifecollage.livejournal.com]

*hugs, many*

[sweetmmeblue.livejournal.com]

Here and I hear you.
*hugs*

[veek.livejournal.com]

<3

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thank you.

[hammercock.livejournal.com]

Read and heard. *hugs*

[catness.livejournal.com]

And that's how it is.

*hug*

[mizarchivist]

yep. Thanks

[sparkymonster.livejournal.com]

This is hard stuff. Thank you

[weegoddess.livejournal.com]

::offers much support and stands quietly nearby::

You, like so many others, are incredibly brave to come forward on this. With every voice, more and more people are heard.

[missionista.livejournal.com]

Very well said. Sending support and hugs.

[curly-chick.livejournal.com]

Thank you for sharing this. It was incredibly brave.

[mizarchivist]

But I'm not brave enough to take it to Facebook.

Thoughts on this

[curly-chick.livejournal.com]

While I think it is brave to share, that does not mean that it is not brave to not share on facebook.

Totally different social media. Totally different possibilities of exposure. And you don't owe it to the world to put it out there in Facebook, live journal or anything.

Grr...I am not articulating myself well. Sharing in LJ feels more intimate and the people you share with likely are closer to you in certain ways---we have had LJ presences for much longer than FB and, unlike FB, I don't have work friends reading my journal. And, I know, for me, I want to control who I tell and when. FB doesn't allow for that control. I never post to FB anything truly important and intimate. It is not that I am embarrassed of anything it is just that having it on FB feels like it is public knowledge in an uncontrolled and unknowable manner (maybe that is bc FB changes their privacy policies daily).

Please know that I think you are incredibly brave and all around awesome.

Re: Thoughts on this

[mizarchivist]

Thanks. The general atmosphere at FB makes it rather untenable, even if people who need to know rape happens to people they actually know, and ::shudder:: yeah. No.

[jedipartner1967.livejournal.com]

You're amazing and, as a testament to your strength and resilience, you have gone on to do so many awesome things with your life. You clearly do not define yourself by the horrible act committed against you and you are blessed. Power. Absolute.