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Jul. 19th, 2011 09:45 am
A thing I need to practice
I am generally the ring leader on almost all things social at my house and have been sort of always. ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
quiet_elegance has a much different view of people and emphatically different comfort levels of interaction than I do. Once I figured this out, we were all much happier. He'll come out once in a while, but over all, he's disinclined to acquiesce (That means no). I may have said this before, but worth saying again: the Union means he's in contact with his own tribe. So, guess what! They're not people that I have a natural affinity towards- big surprise.
Last night he asked me to come out with him to spend time with his current BFF and his family at a Waltham tavern- I didn't expect it to be a long visit, but it was them having dinner and us having dessert (got there around 8- yeah, I ate hours earlier :). QE swears I did fine, but oh em gee did I feel like the fish out of water. Their 9 year old brought crayons thank god, so we goofed with those and we all had bits of conversation in a loud, dark room with televisions everywhere. Maybe I'll suggest we go to some place next. Some place without so many TVs - or any? That would be cool. And maybe bring some of my portable drawing stuff to further bond with the kid.
The thing I need to practice is figuring out how to start conversations in which the other person is encouraged to do most of the talking. That is a hell of a lot harder that it seems when one first tries.
quiet_elegance has a much different view of people and emphatically different comfort levels of interaction than I do. Once I figured this out, we were all much happier. He'll come out once in a while, but over all, he's disinclined to acquiesce (That means no). I may have said this before, but worth saying again: the Union means he's in contact with his own tribe. So, guess what! They're not people that I have a natural affinity towards- big surprise. Last night he asked me to come out with him to spend time with his current BFF and his family at a Waltham tavern- I didn't expect it to be a long visit, but it was them having dinner and us having dessert (got there around 8- yeah, I ate hours earlier :). QE swears I did fine, but oh em gee did I feel like the fish out of water. Their 9 year old brought crayons thank god, so we goofed with those and we all had bits of conversation in a loud, dark room with televisions everywhere. Maybe I'll suggest we go to some place next. Some place without so many TVs - or any? That would be cool. And maybe bring some of my portable drawing stuff to further bond with the kid.
The thing I need to practice is figuring out how to start conversations in which the other person is encouraged to do most of the talking. That is a hell of a lot harder that it seems when one first tries.
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