Cabin Fever

[mizarchivist]

Hi, new mom here.
I'm feeling sort of raw and figuring my shit out still.

Things I need to figure out how to do-

Not have more than about 1 visitor/day. I get worn out really easily. My ideal visiting times are between 10:30a-2p--- Really a tough window. That window because quiet_elegance is working 5:30a-2p, comes home at 2:30 and is exhausted, dirty and starved.  Oh, he came home with a broken toe today. Stupid fucking drywall. Nothing to be done for it, but his pain levels really didn't need this on top of everything else.
 
Given QE's schedule, I'm on duty 80-90% of the time, mostly because I'm the food source and introducing bottles at this stage is not ideal for Crime Fighter. We'll have to find a better equilibrium eventually, but in the meantime, I'm the go-to, particularly for the night shift.  I'm feeling trapped but my hind-brain is in charge, so can't let the cub out of my sight without it being a serious stress for more than an hour or so (hi, feeding times?) - I realize I have to get used to it, but it seems damn early yet.

No really, discharge papers say: don't drive. I proved that to be true this evening when riding in the back of the mini van brought me to tears from the pot holes. Clearly driving is a shitty idea... but in 2 weeks? Maybe not.

In a few weeks, I'm going to have to start thinking about who'll be watching Crime Figther come November. I can't think about this yet. It's too early. QE's work schedule is the factor still. He's back to work this week after 2 weeks off and he starts teaching union classes next week (M and Thu nights) - both good things and means we can start banking it. The "paternity leave" weeks will be paid... in a month thanks to the delays in unemployment.

In the meantime, my days feel the same: long and then gone and here I am, in the middle of the night and on my own with this child. It's boot camp, I suppose. I feel like I'm doing well enough, but it's tough being sequestered on the first floor, out of my bed and away from my husband for the 3rd week now and until I can carry the child up and down the stairs without being so aware of my incision, I remain here. ... mind you, I've got a routine down here. I will have to figure everything out all over again when I shift upstairs.

OK. At least now I'm sort of tired. Maybe I can fall asleep now that much of that is out of my head.

Comments

[buxom-bey.livejournal.com]

If you find yourself on a day without a visitor give me a call. I need adult company myself and driving isn't so painful for me.

[mizarchivist]

totally will

[tigira.livejournal.com]

About the end of week three at home, meadmaker and one of the grandmas dragged me to the Burlington Mall with kiddo in tow.

It was the middle of a weekday after school was in session, so it was pretty dead, and good to see something different.

Once I had the ok to go out and do stuff, I went for a walk with the kiddo at least once a day, but still craved real adult contact.

I say all that to say, "I hear you. I wish I could help in some way, but my work schedule has me gone all day." *hugs*

[mizarchivist]

malls sound a bit dangerous still: easy to walk too far (2-3 blocks is my current limit), easy to over-people without warning, but at least there's food.

I'm looking forward to not be such a delicate flower :/
Thanks for the sy/empathy

[spinrabbit.livejournal.com]

I apologize for flubbing the visit yesterday.

I can visit in that 10:30-2 window anytime after Monday, just let me know.

[mizarchivist]

So many learning curves--
I'll ping you when it's not the weekend

*hugs*

[taura-g.livejournal.com]

Yeah, 5-6 weeks seems about right for the incision healing to the point of more normal activity. At least based on my experience with ab surgery and hammercock's recovery.

You are doing really well, Hon. And it sounds like you are keeping a good attitude about all this. Remember, they call the first three months "the fourth trimester" for a reason.

*hugs* Will bring chocolate when I'm feeling better (which at the current rate should be next week)

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[mizarchivist]

Thanks for the perspective.

Re: *hugs*

[taura-g.livejournal.com]

On a more humorous note: My older sister HATES the phone. Literally can not stand talking on the phone. I could always tell when she hadn't had enough adult conversation during the time her kids were still little because SHE would actually call ME.

She just reminded me of this while I was telling her about the various adventures of my new mother friends. It was however, the first time as adults that we really connected.

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[mizarchivist]

That's funny :)Thanks

Spirit chaser

[drwex]

Remember that I'm up ridiculously late as well as getting up ridiculously early now that K has to be up at 6:30 to get ready for school. Call or chat as needed.

Re: Spirit chaser

[drwex]

Oh and sorry to hear about the toe. man that sucks.

If I can help w/the cabin fever let me know. Offer to make a fast social call (and or bring/drop stuff) tomorrow evening is still on the table.