Adventures in Momland, adventuring continues....

[mizarchivist]

So hard. Weaning toddlers vs. weaning infants/babies. "Oh great, we can talk about this... OH shit, we have to talk about this..."

I'm feeling badly that I'm the one calling it off, not him. He's sad. He's been acting out for who knows what else, but I figure that is one of them. And he's (almost) 3. A combination of I try to pick my battles and I feel badly for being the one to cause a sad for him makes mornings like today extra hard when he's not listening, he wants TV. No. So he goes up and wakes up fubar to try to get it instead.

NO. I said no. I meant no. This is not an opt-out decision. It may feel like a "cuz I say so" reason... and part of it is, but also, we don't get to watch TV whenever we want when we are pre-schoolers. This is a place where getting used to finding something else to do when your first request is denied needs to get into his patterns. Also? Let me tell you how I am NOT ok with the pattern of what I say and what my limits are as the Boss Of Him are flatly ignored. I'm doing this work now so I don't have to do it at 5; at 12; at 18..... (oh toooo laaaate!). The whole multi-adult household can be great, or be a fantastic resource to exploit when you are a very small and cute creature who wants one more episode of Dinosaur Train.

At least it's not surprising behavior. It's very age-appropriate. I'm going to have to get used to this limit being pushed.

Note: I wrote most of this at 9am this morning. It's now almost 5 and I'm OK now. Just another thing to work on and coordinate with the adults of the house. S'alright? S'alright.

Comments

[hammercock.livejournal.com]

We are having the same sort of non-listening issues with Xander lately. *sigh*

[mizarchivist]

age-appropriate. Grumble-grumble.

[veek.livejournal.com]

Age-appropriate yes, but still hard. Sending you good things.

[mizarchivist]

Thanks. He will ask for milk in the morning, and I explain my body's done. It hurts. He's a big boy, do you want to read a book... He's still pretty not keen with this. There really isn't a substitute for milk. I keep reminding myself this must happen. If I give in, we just have to continue down this weaning path again the next time, and the next time. I hate making him sad.

[veek.livejournal.com]

I hate making NAZ sad, too. Sometimes I talk to him about us both feeling sad, and we snuggle. That helps. But boy, there's nothing like knowing you and your decisions are the cause of the sadness.

[buxom-bey.livejournal.com]

Is he doing the screaming thing? She's doing the screaming thing. "But I waaaaaaaaan it!"
*shudders*

[mizarchivist]

Yeah, sometimes. Ech. ::passes the bottle::

Shut da box

[drwex]

I'm glad you're alright now. Been down this road and it's a hard one.

[beah.livejournal.com]

I feel ya on the no TV thing. I'm working on the same thing with my kid. It involves a whole lot of screaming and crying and trying the other parent, none of which works... 90% of the time. Being a kid is full of unthinkable injustices, and being The Justice is a pain in the ass.

[mizarchivist]

So. True.... but then once he's over it, he has a ton of fun doing something else. Sheesh.