Reframing

[mizarchivist]

I just had lunch with a friend who moved back to California a few years ago- a dance instructor, actually. She taught the Bollywood class I took when there was a dance studio up on Highland outside Davis Sq (it's gone now). That class was easily the best dance class I've ever taken and it was a particularly special dynamic. So, it was good to reconnect with her. I gave her the low-down of what's up lately, which is a lot. She's also been struggling with her own plans and career. She said an amazing thing, when I was conveying my anxiety about "what if I never make it outside this tiny microcosm of my job, and I never get another archive job?"

She said "You can't fail." ... what?! OK. That I'm exceptionally resourceful and talented, and that I'll find SOMETHING to do, and it might not be what I thought, but I'm not going to fail. Well. OK, then. I prefer this narrative. Let's go with this.

Comments

[caulay]

That is a better narrative. Props to her for putting it that way.

[mizarchivist]

It felt like a bolt of lighting.

[minkrose]

That's a good way of putting it. That's definitely how I've been looking at this for myself. I'm not doing what I expected, but I'm totally capable of doing this thing. & it's still making good use of my skills in the world in a way that matters to me.

<3

[mizarchivist]

In a way that matters to me, being the very key part. Yesss.

[rintrahroars]

This. Nice framing, hon. <3

[drwex]

Glad you were able to reconnect. I remember talking with you while you were taking that class and how much you enjoyed it.

[mizarchivist]

It's nice to know it meant a lot to her as well.