Sprog Filter: Opt In

[mizarchivist]

[Poll #1670130]Simple as that. Obviously some details will spill into normal posts, but this Thing That Is New To Me will feel more noteworthy than kind of a lot of stuff. When I say "details"-  I maintain the notion that I won't be sharing such horrible bodily functions that would make, say, my father wince. He's not keen on hearing such things, so I keep that in mind when writing about health/medical. It's the rule that is paired with the one where if I can't tell my mom, I probably won't say it here.  I also understand that this, like weddings, is not a universally interesting topic.

The next post on this topic will probably mention food and emotional delicacy, for example. Possibly about knitting and art projects.

Comments

[bryttan.livejournal.com]

But obviously I should warn you that I only infrequently read here & elsewhere, so might have to *gasp* talk *gasp* to you when I see you rather than just knowing everything about what's going on all the time when I see you. :-P

[mizarchivist]

Holy crap, human contact?!

[anotherjen.livejournal.com]

Is the poll closed? I see no option for filling it out. Anyway, yes, please count me in.

[mizarchivist]

Hm. I'd suggest clicking on the poll URL and see if there's an option for filling it out. I suspect I'll remember you want to know when I go through the refiltering process. :)

[anotherjen.livejournal.com]

I tried that. I also tried clicking on "fill out poll" and it just takes me to the results. Oh well.

[tigira.livejournal.com]

I'll be ok hearing about it in person, I think. However, after years of failed fertility treatments trying for #2, I don't know if I can handle it. So rather than put myself in a place where I keep seeing it, and maybe cry, I think I'll satisfy myself with watching you become a mama IRL when I see you.

Please don't be hurt by this. I am IMMENSELY happy for you and think you will be an awesome mama, or mommy, or mom, or mother, or ima, or whatever you want to be called. :)

[mizarchivist]

Exactly. Your sad experiences are why I don't want to be overly in-your-face about it.

[keyne.livejournal.com]

(This is not a comment on how you should feel, just using your thoughts as a springboard.)

I'm still trying to figure out why I'm in a place where hearing about pregnancy and babies from some friends hurts and from others is perfectly fine. I think for me, this past year, a key factor has been whether it was accidental or very much planned -- on some level my subconscious is outraged that somebody else gets to have another when they didn't want one and I don't when I did. :/

I've been pretty uniformly thrilled for the planners, though :}

[mizarchivist]

Indeed. This was emphatically planned, fwiw.

[tigira.livejournal.com]

I have noticed a bit of this range of reaction for myself. Still, I know that I don't always react reasonably, as my husband will attest.

I am generally much less upset when planners succeed than I am with accidental pregnancies, for much the same reason. Still, rather than break down on someone, I think I will abstain from the LJ filter and watch events unfold IRL.

[minkrose]

I am impressed with the clever construction of you poll which avoids unnecessary negativity.

I'm excited to read the posts!

[mizarchivist]

There are many reasons for no and if it's sad like tigira or ambivalence, discomfort, disinterest- it's all no and implied by lack of participation. I am entirely zen about this not being a discussion for the whole universe.

[kebbykate.livejournal.com]

And a warning from me that I will pepper you with advice which you are free to ignore!

[medyani.livejournal.com]

Sorry to see you go-- Hope to see you and the baby in 2011!

[weegoddess.livejournal.com]

I totally want to know how you're doing and feeling - put me on the filter!

You know, I'd been wondering in the back burner of my head if i would start feeling sad/resentful when so many of my friends got pregnant. At this point, I'm pretty sure that it won't happen for me. And I'm just as sure that I really don't want it. I never really did. Despite the dire warnings of parents and in-laws, I don't think I have any reason to second-guess my choices.

And the fact that your being pregnant fills me with Happy tells me that I'm making the right choice for me. So there you go.

[mizarchivist]

You should be able to see the backlog (and today's) and I am very much with you: only do this if you feel it's the right thing. The universe obviously spoke to me in the positive, and here I am.

[buxom-bey.livejournal.com]

Don't know how I missed this, but I defiitely want in when you're back.

[mizarchivist]

Honey, I don't think you did since I recall you commenting on stuff that was on that filter. FWIW.

[harlequinaide.livejournal.com]

The things one misses in the fourth trimester... Yay! Nice timing, too. :-)

[mizarchivist]

*grin* Expected.

[harlequinaide.livejournal.com]

The timing, my inattentiveness or both? :-)

[mizarchivist]

Yes?

[curly-chick.livejournal.com]

If I am not in already, count me in!

[roozle.livejournal.com]

I happen to have missed that there was such an opt-in filter until your recent post about gender.

Not that I had any preconceived impressions that I OUGHT to be on such a filter, but if it is opt-in, would like to hear what you have to say.