Something my neighbor said

[mizarchivist]

I woke up this morning and remembered one of my dreams was about my ex... someone I started dating about 10 years ago now (10 years ago next Thursday, as a matter of fact) -

Because it's almost our "anniversary", I was once again debating on writing him a letter trying to come to terms with our bad blood. I haven't been this crazy yet, mind you, but I think of it from time to time.

I was talking to Pam, my neighbor, at the bus stop this morning about having dreams about exes after all these years. When she heard where I was leading said "whatever you do, never contact old boyfriends. If a woman contacts a man after a few years, she's considered desparate, stalking [or in some way out of line]. But it's ok if a man calls a woman out of the blue."

I don't want to believe this. I want to believe that my friends and I follow a different, less biased code. But I can't convince myself. However, when it comes to this ex, I will follow that advice.

Do you, my friends, think my neighbor is right?

Comments

nope, I don't believe it.

[sweetmmeblue.livejournal.com]

I've done it several times over the years and have only had good responses from the men I've contacted. I will admit that one ex-bf's wife was not happy about me getting in touch with him but she always had a problem with me even when he and I stayed friends after he broke up with me to date her.

However, I've had less favorable response from getting in touch with old female friends.

Do what your heart calls you to do. If you are not sure, then wait. See if the urge is still there is 6 months or more.