New useful source... to me. Not new to others.

[mizarchivist]

In the raging discussion: kids in social spaces that seemed to have been sparked sometime yesterday, D! made reference to the Five Geek Social Fallicies.
Everyone who has witnessed or participated in some or all of these fallicies at some point in your life, raise your hand.... OK, the rest of you are still in deluding yourselves ;) Joking aside, I freely admit to my own participation in this and have felt the negative effects a hell of a lot. However, this is the first time I've seen them spelled out and I thank the author most thoroughly for having the inclination and wherewithall to share it with the rest of us.
As for the kid discussion, I've been fascinated by the sociological study that it is and I expect a lot of people will find their trees shaken on both sides of the chatter.

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[woodwardiocom.livejournal.com]

-A GSF-related phenom I've noticed is what I call "secondary GSF fallout", in the form of keeping violations of the GSFs secret. E.g., if a lot of one's social circles are carriers of Geek Social Fallacy #5, "Friends Do Everything Together", and one is throwing an invite-only party, one insists on keeping it secret, so that the GSF5 carriers don't get offended.

[mizarchivist]

Yep. Witnessed it, perpetrated it, then realized that's insane knocked it off -and I don't expect my guests to sneak, either.

[dbang.livejournal.com]

Bingo.

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

In the raging discussion: kids in social spaces that seemed to have been sparked sometime yesterday

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*interested look*

[mizarchivist]

here
here
and
here thus far, in chronological order. I do not know if gosling sparked it, or if it came from somewhere else.

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

Eeeenteresting...

Will avoid jumping in on the threads themselves, as I don't know the posters, but... all of my parties here are kid-friendly these days, because all of Elayna's babysitters have moved out of town. *wry smile* If someone has a child-free event, they get just me and not Adam - he's the introvert of the couple - but they certainly don't get me bitching about how my kid should be there when it's a non-kid event. *shrug*

[tamidon.livejournal.com]

Go right ahead, you're in the extended community and that's why I left it unlocked.

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

I kinda am, aren't I? Yay!

Now if my husband can only find work in Boston so we can get *up* there already...

[jbsegal.livejournal.com]

http://www.livejournal.com/users/vvalkyri/566880.html

Is where it actually 1st started and where it's been the most vitriolic.

[mizarchivist]

Holy fuck. That should be pickled for posterity's sake, put in a mason jar and labeled "shit storm." The previously indicated discussions I tagged for 'song are so polite! (or were a few hours ago). Huh. I eventually gave up in the lower third as a lost cause and the nits' nits had been picked to death.

[drwex]

Dear lord, Volt has way too much free time for any human being, let alone a parent.

[gosling.livejournal.com]

It had actually been going for a few days when I posted my bit. See here (http://www.livejournal.com/users/quietann/236846.html) (locked) and here (http://www.livejournal.com/users/quietann/236846.html).

[gosling.livejournal.com]

Oops, that second one should be here. (http://www.livejournal.com/users/quietann/237118.html)

[anistastia.livejournal.com]

thanks for the 5 Geek thing - what a hoot :-)

Reading the.....debate on various journals was...enlightening in many cases - i guess i've always tried to take a middle of the road approach both with my own and others but the vehemence in some of those was eye-opening (from both sides) i wish i could do more with my community by having more child-friendly events (actually working on a group outing to ChuckECheese to have the din overwrite the conversation and give most of us relatively child free child time (kids at a distance) but my reality is that my weekends are either working or with my kids - i basically get four days off a month (every other weekend) and i WANT - i NEED that time with my kids - which usually means unless it's a child-friendly event, i don't get to go. 10 years from now that'll be different. i hope you and yours will share your thoughts on my post *shameless plug*

[drwex]

leaving off the kids ranting, which I've sort of only dabbled my toes in, I thought the writeup was pretty good and I've seen evidence of much of that. I'm trying to recall for my own self if it's been true and I mostly think I've fallen victim to the failure to understand why two people I like can't manage to stand each other.